The secret

I had a friend ask me earlier today how Drex and I have managed to stay together so long, and still maintain a strong relationship. (Obviously we aren't always happy but overall we are.) I've had a lot of boyfriends....(oh confessions) and I've liked most of them quite a lot, so i wouldn't say it's because I like Drex the best, (I do obviously but I think there's more to it than that).

So, anyways, this question got me thinking. I mean we all want to know how to make relationships last and flourish for as long as possible right? I can pin point two things that I believe have helped us last so long.

1.) We don't do awkward.

-I remember at the very beginning of our relationship we told each other we "don't do awkward". A lot of people find it weird and shocking that Drex and I can talk about bathroom habits or fart in front of each other but it all goes back to not being awkward around each other. It means we can share things that some may deem inappropriate, or even have awkward conversations, but we get over it and just move on. It's been extremely helpful. Who knew adding a little bathroom talk could make your relationship awesome?! :P

2.) No secrets.

-I think this is the biggest thing. We tell each other everything. We're brutally honest with each other, and though it may cause arguments or hurt feelings, it makes us stronger.

Obviously, I'm no relationship expert, but hey I'm just babbling on, but that's what blogging is for...right?

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Stomach flu. I woke up puking at 8:30 in the morning and that continued throughout the day. I literally didn't leave the house at all. Oh well, we all need a sick day :)

DAY TWELVE-Something you never get compliments on.

My arms.

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I've written about Nitro, but not a lot about his growth.

He is four months old, five months on November 8th. He weighs 26 lbs and has had all of his vaccinations. Including his puppy rabies. He won't need another shot until he's about a year. His coat is growing in. He's going to be a smooth coat and I'm really glad because his mom was a smooth coat and his dad was a long coat. So we weren't sure what HIS coat was going to look like.



He's become a true fetch dog. He gets the ball wherever you are and just patiently waits for you to throw it. Example



He's tons of fun and it's been exciting seeing him grow up. :)

DAY ELEVEN-Something people seem to compliment you the most on

My cheeks. I've been told many times I have nice big cheek bones. I don't necessarily agree but that's okay :)

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DAY TEN-Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know.

Almost always I will say there is no one I wish I hadn't met and that everyone I had met had impacted me in some way. But there is ONE person who I wish I had never ever met. Caleb Harris. Knowing him has been completely pointless. He is the cockiest most self centered person I know. I honestly wish he had never come to Grace, let alone entered my life.

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DAY NINE-Someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted.

Destinee and I had been best friends since 8th grade. We did everything together. It was just her and I against the world. Then March of 2010 hit and her and her boyfriend of 1 and a half years broke up. The night of, her and I hopped on a plane to Russia. We were truly on fire for God during that trip.

When we came back I made the assumption that she would be over guys. That she had healed. That she was going to figure out who she was in God.

That didn't happen. When we came back it was suddenly about "getting back out there, having fun, and being single but still having friends with benefits." I didn't agree with this. It made me so angry. It was so different then what I had witnessed in Russia. It was then that we started growing apart and when she decided to make this summer "one to remember" we just stopped hanging out.

Then as the school year started we began hanging out again. But then that "summer to remember" bit her and the rest of my friends in the butt and got them expelled from school. It was a big shock and a big change. Because all of them left my school I had to make other friends. When me having other friends became just one other thing to argue about, I gave up.

It's actually been really good. Not having a group of friends has allowed me to branch out and see the best in everyone. I'm thankful for everything that has happened.

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Last night I spent the night with Nicole at a house she was house sitting. It's owned by the people who own Quiznos. And it was HUGE. They have three separate garages, ONE of those is a five car garage. Crazy. They also have two gorgeous German Shepherds that we got to sleep with. I realized today this is the second saturday in a row that I spent the night with Nicole. Totally weird and rare for me! But nice, because I don't feel like I have to but instead I want to. It's a very nice feeling.

DAY EIGHT -Someone who made your life hell, or treated you like shit.

I don't even know.

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Well today hasn't been anything special. Took the dogs on a nice long walk, Loosie fell through the ice, and Drex and I both had very cold fingers but other than that it's been a fairly quiet day. Tonight I'm staying the night with Nicole at a house she's house sitting for which should be enjoyable. While I'm off doing that, Drex is having his friends over to his moms house (she's out of town) to play halo and stay the night there. So we will both be busy with friends. I'm looking forward to tonight.

DAY SEVEN -Someone who has made your life worth living for.

Okay so this might be one of those super cheesy posts. There are lots of people who have made my life worth living for. Most recently would be my dearest boyfriend. Drex has taught me so many things. Because of all the things he's dealt with in life, I've learned to not take things forgranted. I've learned to appreciate the ability to breathe, or the assurance that I will have a roof over my head at night.